Where do you see yourself five years from now? How about ten years into the future? How do you think your life is going to look then? Not sure about the answer?

Well, there’s an easy way to get an idea about what you’ll be doing – and even how successful you’ll be. Look at the company you keep.

Friends influence our beliefs, our habits, our plans for the future even. You can see why it’s important to choose the right friends.

So how do you do it? First of all, understand that “choosing” implies taking action. That means you can’t just hope you get lucky and meet the kind of people who will truly care about where you end up in life. 

Then, you can try putting some of these ideas into action.

Don’t Make Compromises Because You’re Lazy

Let’s face it: Friendships are often a product of circumstances. It’s not uncommon for people to choose their best friends based on geographical proximity.

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Co-workers, neighbors, other parents you meet at school recitals – these are examples of people you’re most likely cross paths with regularly. But is territorial proximity enough to choose the right friends?

Sometimes, you get lucky. You find people whom you can really connect to among those you come into contact with on a regular basis.

But sometimes we settle for less meaningful friendships. We associate with certain people just because it’s more comfortable.

Understand that every friendship you keep takes away some of your energy. It has an impact on you, even though you might not be fully aware of it.

Choose whom you spend your time with wisely. Even though a friendship might take more effort to maintain, it may be worth it.

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Be Aware of Your Value

Your friends don’t always have to agree with you on anything. In fact, it’s quite healthy to have people in your life who can challenge and provoke you to see things in a different light.

However, it’s best to make sure your friends won’t negatively influence your core values and belief. For that, you need to do some soul-searching:

  • Write down your core values and standards that you live your life by.
  • Think about the major life goals you want to reach in the near future.
  • Know what are your strengths, as well as your vulnerabilities.

Knowing these things about yourself will ultimately help you choose the right friends. In other words, people who have similar values, similar goals, and who can balance your weaknesses.

Constantly Evaluate Your Life

Different stages of your life will most likely call for different friends. Our needs change, our expectations change, we change.

Understand that it’s only natural for some of your old friends to choose a different path in life. They can turn into completely different individuals.

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It’s okay to distance yourself from people you’ve known since kindergarten if you no longer find yourself in that relationship – or if you feel that person is dragging you and doesn’t understand your desire to self-improve.

Associate higher, and strive to be in the company of those who push you to be better. That’s how you move forward.

Choose the Right Friends – and Hold on to Them

Having a solid group of friends can create the right environment you need to thrive not only now, but also in the future. The right friends for you are out there, and now you are better equipped to find them.

Once you do, invest in them, commit, show how much you value them. They’re probably looking for the right friends too.

Self-improvement is all about taking small steps but doing it constantly. Treat every day as a new opportunity to do a little bit more, and be just a little bit better.

Keep your eyes on my blog for more resources that will help you in your quest for self-improvement.

Alexandra Nicola

COO at Squirrly
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