Have you ever been told failure is bad? Unfortunately, it happens more than it should have. People often stick with the misconception that making a mistake marks them for life.

I’ll tell you this: It’s time you do away with this mindset and start exploring the self-improvement potential in failure.

After all, errors are just triggers towards a better self-understanding. And a better assessment of the world around you.

Let’s get rid of all the negativity and start shaping a better self. Ready?

Mistakes Do Not Define You

The one thing we must all do throughout our lives is embrace our flawed condition – which is okay. We were not designed to be perfect, but rather to strive towards an ideal version of ourselves.


That is why a mistake or unsuccessful attempt here and there don’t tell the whole story.

You are such a complex dynamic that it’s a reductionist perspective to view errors as defining traits. They could stem from negligence, lack of information or faulty understanding.

But these are often out of your control. More than that, they’re temporary glitches that only point to the areas you need to pay attention to.

The Effort towards Self-Improvement Brings out the Fighter in You

I’m going to advance the following rationale:

  1. Can you envision an error-free life? Everything going smoothly and your way? It all sounds like a dream where you remain the same and don’t change for the better.
  2. But is this really a scenario you’d want?
  3. What if it’s not about what you want? It’s rather about what’s more beneficial to you.
  4. Now, mistakes are beneficial as they determine us to make additional efforts towards self-improvement.
  5. Making a sustained effort is kind of like leading a battle. After you come out on top, you have that sense of total fulfillment.

You wouldn’t feel that sensation if not for the battles you’ve led to get better. Mistakes happen in order to trigger the fight.

Now you decide which is better for your personal development: A straightforward path or an up-and-down journey.

Time to Ditch the Blame Game

It’s tempting to blame yourself after a mistake. We’re culturally programmed to react like that.

It’s one thing to take responsibility, and another one to blame ourselves for every single shortcoming.

That’s not to say you should embrace an “anything goes'” attitude.

It’s more about trying to get a clear boundary between what’s guilt-worthy and not. Analyze each context carefully before letting blame sink in.


Did you commit a mistake as you were trying to experiment? Or could you have avoided failure if you were more prepared? The first case is different than the latter. Knowing that helps you establish just the right attitude and not enter an endless cycle of discontentment.

These days, it seems “self-improvement” represents the go-to phrase whenever life hurdles come upon us. But really, it’s all about learning to be aware of yourself in a realistic manner.

In the highly competitive world we’re living, there’s no time for ceaseless self-deprecation. If you learn to take mistakes as blessings in disguise, this might be your winning ticket.

I’ve been through hard times myself, so I learned that feeling beaten up didn’t do me any favors. 

Any other self-improvement topic you’re interested in? Check out the other articles on my website.

Alexandra Nicola

COO at Squirrly
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